Assigning motives to people

Have you ever seen someone sitting with an intent look on their face and thought they were angry with someone, when in fact they were just in deep thought? I am sure it happens a lot. People tend to assign motives and moods to others that do not exist.

With the written word you would think that that wouldn't happen yet it does. People see what they want to see sometimes and not what is there. Or again assign emotion to it that doesn't exist.

Case in point my post was seen as full of anger and bitterness by one person. Those emotions never came into play. I was called judgmental. I was explaining what I and 95% of the female population is attracted to on a subconscious level. I didn't go into detail and site reference materials because quite frankly I had a poker tournament coming up that held much more interest to me than looking up facts I had read and learned in school long ago.

I guess my point is when you see someone sitting alone that looks mad perhaps they are trying to figure out how to do something. With me it would be a computer program, or perhaps how I am going to pay for my new computer.

I had a funny experience last night. A guy messaged me It was one of the rare times that I was not up to my neck programming or shhhhhhhhhh dont tell anyone in a poker tournament. So I decided to say hello. He was pleasant enough. He asked me if I had a mic and camera. I told him that I did but that I had just set up my new computer. He proceeded to tell me how to set them both up. He is telling me this on his mic. I typed lol and told him that I am a computer programmer. He still continued to tell me how to hook the dang thing up. And the camera too! Again I explained that I can take apart and put back together my computer add new parts up grade and do what ever I want to do. The issue was time and the level of importance to me. I don't think he even read that because on he went with instructions.

I am only human so I can tell you at this point I am more than a little irritated. Not that he is trying to be helpful mind you but that in his effort he was not listening or reading a thing I had to say.

I could easily see the following conversation.

Him: How are to tonight?

Me: I can’t talk right now. I caught my clothes in the chain of my bike and ended up breaking my leg.

Him: Oh bike chains must be oiled, and the cover must be on tightly. Do you have a screw driver I will tell you how to fix that right now.

Me: It was me I was wearing skirt with shorts. The skirt got caught in the chain. I need to go. My son is here to take me to the hospital.

Him: Now did you find that screw driver? Just take the cover and……

Ackkkkkkkk, Oh well it gave me something to think deeply about today problem was that a very sweet looking little old lady walked up and asked me who pissed in my Wheaties!